A large majority of the world considers God as their father; or rather call God as their father, particularly in such believing families. How does one become a good father? What are the yardsticks by which we measure the goodness of a father? This is a subject for discussion as who is the judge about the goodness of the father? Is it the mother, the children, or the society? What qualities should a man possess to be called a good father? generating a bigger debate.

Can a mother judge her partner about his goodness as a father? That judgment can depend on so many probabilities. What are her yardsticks? How was her father? What are her beliefs? Do these beliefs match those of her husband? How much does she love her husband and her children? If it comes to taking sides, whose side will she take? Will it be a well-thought-out decision or one coloured by many other factors?

Can the father judge his goodness? What may be correct according to him, may be wrong according to her children? The man carries his psychological baggage and many times may be prejudging and expecting responses. The generation gap may play a role. As the world progresses, priorities, tastes, values, and everything changes. Therefore a man himself cannot pronounce himself a good father as children will contest if he does not accept their beliefs. Which child will call his father a good father, if the father has set ideas about partying, relationships, studies, etc? Can the children judge their father? That is difficult to believe. The children surely wish for a father who not only agrees with their ideas but supports them in all possible ways in enjoying life. What if a child is such that he believes that enjoying life is more important than studying for examinations?

If we think more about this subject, it will result in more confusion. What is to be thought about fatherhood and how does one become a good father? The best way out might be to accept the generation gap, listen to children before giving orders, have a fair debate on all important issues, and tell children exactly about values that will decide the final action. After doing all this, one should simply do one’s duty and leave the rest to prayers. And before attempting to become a good father, one should first become a good man.